One big problem that people may create for themselves while trying to change or grow in life is that they go on the search for magic pills.

What is a magic pill?

Well, basically looking at something – a book or a just a tip – as a complete and quick solution for your problem. Thinking that that thing will “fix you”, just like a pill from the doctor could.

Now, magic pills can be quite harmful to you. Here’s a few reasons why you should avoid chasing after them:

Have you ever watched a movie or read a book, and got nothing out of it?

Have you ever enrolled in a workshop or evening class and got nothing out of it?

A couple of days ago I was chatting to a friend about a book we had both read, the book was actually about core values. He was amazed when I said how great one particular section was and how it had deepened my commitment to my own values because he had found the book pretty boring.

Guess what? It was because that was what I needed to hear.

Sorry, this is not an article about quick change artists nor is it about cross dressing parties. It is about, if we allow it, through fear or blindness, how society in general and close relationships in particular will hold us back. Social Drag steals Dreams. Social Drag keeps us from daring to be who we truly are, it keeps us small and fearful, living in the shadows. Social Drag is also a huge opportunity.

The fifth Secret to an Excellent Life: Planning to Succeed

In previous articles, we’ve looked at the attributes of people with Excellent Lives, and we began with personal integrity. From there we moved on to the excitement that comes from having a crystal clear vision coupled with the power of self-discipline and unstoppable optimism.

In this article, we turn to the more practical nuts-and-bolts of creating an excellent life.

Change and how it comes about is a strange thing.

Today was clean up day on my desk. Now, everyone who knows me would realise MY desk is NEVER untidy but, I did it anyway. After all the dust had settled the only thing left was this piece I am posting now.

I don't even know how long I’ve had it sitting there. I do know however, every time I feel a bit stuck it turns up to remind me of the very first flip chart I ever saw in a personal growth seminar, over 20 years ago: FOR THINGS TO CHANGE, FIRST I MUST CHANGE. I also know it feels right to put it up here, NOW!!